The L.O.V.E. Approach to Living with Dementia
A family, friends, and person-centered approach to improving overall well-being!
The story of the sidewalk and the dandelion
When you see the dandelion, do you see a weed or a flower?
A weed is a plant growing where it doesn't belong, so by definition, the yellow dandelion is considered a weed. However, I, like you, see a beautiful flower. How we perceive our world is shaped by our knowledge and lived experiences. The dandelion posses a unique life cycle making it a wonderful metaphor of life by symbolizing resilience and emotional healing. And just like people, there are many types of flowers. The orchid for example, can only grow in a specific settings, but dandelions have the ability to thrive in diverse environments,
The crack in the sidewalk not only suggests the imperfections in ourselves, it also represents a place to flourish, embrace our authenticity and experience growth, as the dandelion illustrates its strength to burst forth from the earth. The path of our life's journey has unexpected changes, challenges, and even detours, much like sidewalks.
The image to the right represents the transformation of the dandelion from a bright yellow flower to a fluffy seed head, dispersing it's seeds for miles, and starting new life. As the seeds are blown away, with no control of where they will land, they represent a freedom of release and letting go to find new opportunities. A popular activity as a child was making a wish while blowing the little seeds and sending them on their journey.
Dandelions see no barriers, even pushing its way through the tiniest crack in concrete. Its resourcefulness and deep roots finds the nutrients from the soil, absorbs water, and forces it's way through the obstacle. The dandelion has a remarkable gift; creating beauty in unexpected places!
Are you a dandelion with the resilience and willingness to break through barriers, even during difficult times, or an orchid requiring specific conditions to flourish? Supporting someone living with dementia presents so many challenges, but when we stop trying to change the person and adopt new approaches by changing ourselves, relationships will become more meaningful and you can share moments of joy and feelings of connectedness.
I'm Vicky Pitner and I'm a dandelion. However, I began as a sensitive little orchid looking for the perfect environment to grow, but quickly discovered I needed to be a dandelion in order to thrive. When supporting someone living with a dementia, adapting to the overwhelming responsibilities, may make you feel you are alone. But if you will trust me, you will find the emotional support and learn practical strategies to help you and your family member or friend to live a life of quality.
I'm Vicky Pitner and have been the field of healthcare supporting children adults, in both clinical and community settings for over 40 years I am a Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist, Certified Dementia Practitioner, and a Certified Holistic Life Coach